In Defense of David Harris
March 5, 2003
A
murder trial recently concluded in Texas wherein a woman who killed her
husband was defended by the husband's own mother, brother and father,
who explained that, aside from what might be described as some unpleasantness
on a bad day, the woman is really a good, law-abiding person.
The press on both the left and the right has poured derision upon the
murder victim, referring to David Harris as a "creep," a "rat," a "a lying,
cheating scumbag" and Clara Harris' "unfaithful dog of a husband." Misandrist
feminist Susan Estrich asked "Who could blame [Clara] for getting into
her Mercedes and running him over?" and seemed a little sad that the jury
did. She fantasized a Cochranesque defense for her, noting:
"Every day across America, women crowd into the offices of plastic surgeons
and beauticians and aestheticians, spending money we don't have on painful
procedures we don't really need, trying to hang on to men who don't deserve
us...with their votes, the Harris jury could have sent a shot across the
bow to all those cheating men. If you cheat on your wife, she can kill
you and get away with it. If he deserved to get hit, you must acquit."
Joseph Farah, editor and chief executive officer of WorldNetDaily, penned
a column entitled "Free Clara Harris!" in which he wrote "I'd give her
a medal....she did the right thing. That creep deserved what he got" and
urged readers to "live like her." John Kasich, guest host on The O'Reilly
Factor, also expressed sympathy for Clara who, he claimed, had been
"mentally tortured" by her husband.
On the radio and the Internet many observers expressed similar sentiments,
such as: "If at first you don't succeed, run over him again"; "I feel
much compassion for Clara but absolutely none for her husband the victim..[he's]
not worth killing"; and, of course, "You play, you pay."
Even the prosecutor, Mia Magness, apparently quibbles with the killer
only over her choice of methods, expressing a preference that, instead
of killing David by her own hand, she should have driven him to suicide
by divorcing him and "[doing] like every other woman...get his house,
car, kids -- make him wish he were dead."
In Shakespeare's tragedy King Lear, Lear is abandoned by his family
with the exception of one loyal daughter, Cordelia. In the Texas tragedy
David Harris has been abandoned by his family except for his loyal daughter
Lindsey, who loved her father and begged her stepmother not to kill him.
The murder of her father and the betrayals of her grandmother, grandfather
and uncle have exacted a high toll on her, driving her to four suicide
attempts in the past six months.
What did David Harris do to deserve this cruel fate? He had an affair.
As Shakespeare's Marc Antony said of the fallen Caesar's "ambition," David's
infidelity was "a grievous fault--and grievously hath he answered it."
It goes without saying that were the genders reversed nobody would be
talking about infidelity as a justification for murder. Imagine a woman
trapped in a loveless marriage with a jealous, potentially violent husband
whom she believes may be cheating on her. She stays in the marriage because
she fears she could be separated from her children should they divorce,
and finds understanding, companionship and passion in a relationship with
a coworker. Her husband finds out about the affair and goes on a violent,
jealous rampage, slaughtering her in front of her daughter as the daughter
begs him not to kill her mother.
There would be no tears or excuses proffered for the killer, and he would
be just one more murderer sitting on Texas' death row. The public would
view the woman's affair as a sad, desperate attempt to gain some comfort
in the hellish life her brute of a husband had imposed on her. The mere
mention of the fact that his wife had been cheating on him as an excuse
for murder would be correctly denounced by feminists, who would also express
outrage at the murderer's "blame the victim" defense.
Listening to the public and media reaction to the Harris case one would
imagine that infidelity were a vice owned exclusively by the male of the
human species. In reality, research estimates that for every five unfaithful
husbands, there are four unfaithful wives. According to the American Association
of Blood Banks, of the nearly 300,000 cases evaluated each year in the
United States, roughly 30% exclude the tested individual as the biological
father of the children he thought were his. Even blood typing examinations
taken decades ago showed that at a bare minimum 10% of the fathers who
signed their babies' birth certificates were unknowingly claiming paternity
of children who weren't theirs.
Unlike her husband, Clara is alive to spin her version of the events and
naturally portrays herself as the loyal, devoted wife of a man who betrayed
her. However, upon closer examination the evidence is overwhelming that
the bad spouse in this marriage was Clara, not David.
David's daughter, Lindsey, says that her father had the affair in part
because of the way Clara mistreated and neglected him. According to her
testimony, David told his daughter on many occasions how lonely he felt.
Lindsey also testified that her stepmother Clara made her feel unimportant
and as if she were not part of the family, and that the only place where
pictures of her were allowed in the home were in her father's bathroom.
By contrast, pictures of the twins (the children Clara and David had together)
dominated the house. Lindsey also testified that Clara had physically
assaulted David on at least one prior occasion.
According to testimony by a detective at Blue Moon Investigations, the
private detective agency which Clara had hired to spy on David, when Clara
first came to the agency for help she described her husband as a "good
man" who had fallen into the "trap" set by his coworker Gail Bridges,
a "deceitful woman." Clara told the detective that her own neglect of
David was the cause of his affair.
A vice president for Blue Moon Investigators told the court in November
that she had conducted an investigation of Clara and presented several
audio tapes on which, according to the news department of a Houston television
station, "witnesses claim that Clara Harris was also having an affair
before her husband died" [emphasis added].
Clara also lies, as evidenced by her preposterous courtroom claim that
she didn't know she was running over her husband, despite a video which
shows her repeatedly circling and running him down with her Mercedes.
Most importantly, David Harris was married to a person capable of killing
an unarmed man as the man's daughter begged her not to kill her father
. While we'll never know exactly what happened between David and Clara
behind closed doors, can there be any doubt that a person capable of such
a heinous crime was not exactly the perfect spouse? That David probably
had good reason to distrust or dislike her and seek the affections of
another? That somewhere along the line it might have been Clara's um......personality
that might have created the problem?
One of the main clubs used against David Harris is the conversation he
had with Clara at an airport hotel bar on July 18 in which he allegedly
listed the reasons he preferred Bridges over Clara. According to Clara,
these reasons included the fact that Clara made negative, pessimistic
comments, was loud and dominated conversations, and that David found Bridges
more physically attractive than Clara. Many have cited this as evidence
of what a cad and a creep David was. Yet few husbands would have the courage
to speak to their wives about their wives' physical appearance in the
way Clara claims, particularly to a jealous, violent wife like her. It
is extremely likely that David broached these subjects with Clara only
under direct pressure from her. I imagine the barroom conversation/interrogation
went something like this:
Clara: Tell me how she is better than me. Tell me why you prefer her.
David: I don't want to talk about it.
Clara: Tell me. That's the least you can do.
David: I said I don't want to talk about it. You two are two different
people.
Clara: How are we different, I want to know. Tell me why she is better
than me (pounds fist on table). Tell me.
David: (Sighs) Well, she is less.....vocal. She listens more. She's not
so...negative, pessimistic.
Clara: (Ignoring David's comments) It's her looks, isn't it? It's got
to be her looks. Tell me about her looks.
David: I don't want to talk about it. It's got nothing to do with her
looks. I like her because she's nice to me...
Clara: I demand to know about her looks.
David: It's not her looks...
Clara: Tell me about her looks. I deserve to know.
David: (Sighs) Well, she is (quivers)......well, she is...(quivers again)...thinner
than you, just a little bit honey, just a little bit....
Clara: And? And?
David: (Still quivering) Nothing. That's all.
Clara: No it isn't. What about her breasts? Is it her breasts? What are
her breasts like?
David: (Head swivels, looks around in every direction for a waiter) Clara,
please...
Clara: What are her breasts like?
David: (Sighs) Her breasts are... (quivers)....are.... nice
Clara: Nice! Nice! How nice? What are they like? Describe them to me....
Clara, the appearance-obsessed former beauty queen, was probably capable
of seeing her and David's problems only in terms of her looks and focused
on this instead of David's real message, which was that Clara's neglect
and personality were the cause of the problem. Many have used the conversation
as an excuse to speak of David's affair as if he were carrying on with
a 19 year-old cheerleader. In reality, Bridges is only a few years younger
than Clara and is the mother of three children. Since she was also a coworker,
odds are that David looked to her at least as much for companionship as
for sex.
Why did David stay? Probably because of his young twin boys. He probably
knew that in a divorce he had little chance of winning even shared custody
of his children and that it is common for custodial mothers to block noncustodial
fathers' access and visitation to their children. He almost certainly
knew that Clara was just the type of vengeful person who would do such
a thing.
Despite Clara's attempt to save herself from justice by maligning her
dead husband, there is no evidence that David Harris was anything worse
than a fallible human being who was caught in a difficult situation. By
all estimations he was a good father, a good provider and a good husband
for the vast majority of his and Clara's 10 year marriage. The fact that
this flawed but decent man could be slaughtered and then vilified for
his one comparatively minor transgression speaks volumes about our society's
noxious mix of anti-male feminism and anti-male male chivalry. The product
of this witches' brew is a sick cultural norm where, in any conflict between
a man and a woman, the man is always wrong.
