January 1, 2005
For many the New Year becomes a event for looking back; in fact such retrospectives are a perennial byproduct of taking one calendar down off the wall and putting a new one up, and an anticipation of writing last year’s date on this year’s checks several times in the upcoming weeks. I don’t want to join in this chorus, it is done to death, and done by far more able raconteurs than my affable and lovable self.
Likewise is the “Predictions” schtick. While I will assert a properly skeptical “unproven” on claims of clairvoyance, such things are mostly a guess basing same guess on current trends and the assumption that such trends will continue without anything but normal resistance to any such change. Some are better at this than others, for me, the future is a closed book which I delight in reading.
But I do have my own wish list.
If I may permit myself a small retrospective, I am happy and relieved that the big election is over, and no further damage was done to this country by putting socialist asswipes in power. As a good Libertarian, I have many reservations about President Bush, but far, far more about the American Sociali – er, Democratic Party. The Republicans have an advantage in that they will tell you up front what their plans are, and are largely open about it. This allows their more hare-brained schemes to be countered by sober and thinking folk.
The whole election cycle has been a distraction and a derailing of just about everything else, though. And to me, a new calendar is time to pack up the old, put it in a box and mark it with a Sharpie, and move on. My wish list is one centered about what I’d like to see in the coming year our of the Men’s Rights Movement.
For the first, I’d like to see us all stop operating like a bunch of crabs trying to crawl out of a bucket. There is a deplorable tendency among us group-wise to think that “our way” is the one true way, the only way, and everything else is a danger to it. So, rather than advance our agenda, and fight our own battle that we have chosen, we take pot shots at everything but the Feminist Matriarchy, which is our real enemy as MRA’s.
A case in point is the last year’s lawsuit filed by many NCP’s all over the country against the various states. This was most viciously attacked within our community on various levels, so much so that the Feminoids needed do nothing.
I harbor no illusions as to the long term effectiveness of this strategy, but I see some clear advantages to it. It does generate some publicity and raises awareness, and there ain’t no such bird as bad publicity. It forces our foes to defend. I can sue you, gentle reader, for anything. If you fail to show up in court and say, “That Gonzo is as mad as the March Hare, and this ought to be tossed out on its ear” I am going to win, by default.
Tend to your own activism, my brothers. Let others tend to theirs. If they fail, there may still be value to be found, if for nothing else the “That was dumb, let’s not go there again” lesson. If they succeed, well, what can I say? Success is good, if I may state the obvious. Use your ammunition on the enemy. Don’t waste it on your brother.
For my second wish to the Genie of the Lamp, I’d like to see “Father’s for Justice” expand its operations on this side of the big pond. This is a group who has a proven track record of placing the Father’s Rights agenda on the table for discussion.
Third on my Wish List is for Glenn Sacks to have his radio program expanded to more stations. The way to do this is to call your radio stations, ask for it, and support it with advertising dollars. Hell, for that matter, I’d like my own program. “Live and Unmedicated with The Gonzman.” It has a nice ring to it. Hell, I’ve listened to some of the ponderous buffoons who manage to get their own shows. I could do better than a lot of those spuds.
Fourth, the tide is shifting on the “Doofus Dad” syndrome in the media. Granted, the shift is small now, but I’d like to see this become a groundswell. When the media succeeds in a more even handed portrayal of mothers and fathers beyond the “Woman as Wise and Nurturing Goddess” and “Man as Bumbling Idiot and Psychopath” caricature, we need to give them props. The media is on the ropes, guys. The internet and such is making them very sensitive to both criticism and praise. This is an angle of attack to be exploited. Exploit it well. Throw roses, and throw rotten tomatoes with equal and frequent fervor.
Number Five: Let’s stop preaching to the choir. It’s high time to move our message out from our private little groups and engage the enemy in the field. Don’t get me wrong, those groups have high value as a HQ and command central. And some people should remain in them to supply the intelligence and talking points, but who have no business engaging in rhetoric with the public. Hand in hand with Wish Number one, I will concur that we cannot moderate our message, but moderating the presentation is desirable, and those who can’t, shouldn’t.
Point Six: It’s also been talked to death about creating a clearing house with accurate statistics vis-à-vis domestic violence, the consequences of fatherless families, listings of Father Friendly attorneys, and such, and it’s about time we did this as a reality. Who is game? I’m not a Web Programmer, I could myself make a very flat site, but not a very professional one. We would also need a domain.
As corollary to six, I’d like to see some of those who exploit the pain of their fellow men to take it on the chin. Next time you have a jar of TUMS, and a couple hours to spare, cruise the Feminazi rings and look at just how much free advice on screwing men legally is out there. Then flip to the other side and see how many men offer this same service for just “$29.95, or three easy payments of $12.95” or other such crap. There’s a wrongness to it. We need brotherhood on this, and any man who can’t give a brother a hand up needs his testicles revoked. It’s one thing to cover costs, it’s another to have something of lasting and enduring value, but access to a database? Please.
Gonz’s seventh wish is for us to stop letting the Femi-kooks shame us into shooting ourselves in the foot. As I cruise the web of days, I see example after example of some stealth feminists, and it’s the same bunch all the time, give their pouty little sniff of “You’re just like the feminists.”
Yeah, we wouldn’t want to be anything like them; why, their movement was… um…
Help me out, people. What is the word I’m looking for?
Oh, yeah! SUCESSFUL!
I’m hip and I’m jiggy with the whole idea of not starting a victimhood based ideology. I’m also on board with the idea of the feminine not being the enemy, but the feminist. We are struggling for our families, and, it’s going to take women to do that, unless some of you are having uterus implants. But damn it, marching, writing, protesting – these things work. Sitting around bitching doesn’t. Just because “The Feminists Did It” doesn’t make it bad. The feminists also took time out to eat – should we starve ourselves, then, to distance ourselves further from them? Some perspective is in order. No, we don’t want to lift everything verbatim from the Feminazi playbook, and we do have to take the time to tailor it to our own ends, and filter out the truly morally repugnant things. But even blind squirrels find nuts every now and again. And just because one of these squirrels here and there is some horse-faced N.O.W. troll doesn’t mean we should bypass her cache. Raid it for all it’s worth. It’s our nuts we are reclaiming.
My number eight is for men to start claiming the blogosphere as their own. This is an unexploited resource good for mutual support and brainstorming. Link to all the good sites you can find. Expose feminist nuttiness far and wide, make them objects of ridicule and loathing. It’s my observation that when attacked, the Feministas circle the wagons and just give up. I’ve helped three of these this past year alone into a demise by hammering away at their dumb crap, until the blog owner just gave up in a huff. They feel unsafe? Good. Stupid people should feel unsafe as regards to posting their ignorance, they should live in mortal fear of their wretched ideologies being called onto the carpet, weighed, measured, and found wanting, and them turned into a laughingstock. Make them become insular, tribal, underground, and preaching to their own choir.
Moving into the final leg, number nine, is for our movement to discard the collective ADD we seem to have. We get distracted by the details of something, rather than focusing on the moral rightness of something. Paternity Fraud is WRONG. Custodial Interference is WRONG. Child Support as Back Door Alimony is WRONG. The litany is both vast and immense. Overcoming objections are a distraction and the presentation of them is a delaying tactic. When some feminut or her sympathizers start their blathering on “Well, children need to be supported even if she is a lying skank who is defrauding everyone…” what needs to be done is answer, “So you support legalized fraud, and license to commit it?” and keep hammering that core point home. Hammer home the idea that women who do this are bad people and thus bad mothers. Hammer home that it is she who is the one who is really the core cause of a child suffering. Do not allow these kinds of people to derail a discussion by focusing on minutiae. That keeps you busy quibbling, not busy making progress.
And finally, my last wish is for all the men who have been suffering from being driven out of their homes, cut off from their children, persecuted by the false accusation industry, and impoverished by a corrupt CS bureaucracy to have a turn of fortune, and enjoy a happy and prosperous 2005. God knows you all deserve it. And in that I wish for you to get your best revenge on those who have put the screws to you by living well.
