The
Role of the Judiciary in the Entrenchment of the Parental Alienation
Syndrome(PAS)*
April 10, 2002
by Richard A. Gardner. M.D., Clinical
Professor of Child Psychiatry at Columbia University, College of Physicians
and Surgeons, New York, New York.
The primary
person responsible for the induction of a parental alienation
syndrome (PAS) in a child is the litigating parent who hopes to
gain leverage in a court of law by programming in the child a
campaign of denigration directed against a target parent. In most
cases alienated parents are relatively helpless to protect themselves
from the indoctrinations and the destruction of what was once
a good, loving bond. They turn to the courts for help and, in
most cases in my experience, have suffered even greater frustration
and despair because of the court’s failure to meaningfully provide
them with assistance. It is the purpose of this article to point
out the judiciary’s deficiencies and even failures in this realm.
It is the author’s hope that increasing recognition by the judiciary
of its failures to deal effectively with PAS families will play
a role in the rectification of this serious problem.
DEFINITIONS
The Parental Alienation Syndrome
The Parental Alienation
Syndrome (PAS) is a disorder that arises primarily in the context
of child-custody disputes. Although the litigants are most often the
biological parents, the same disorder can arise with others who may
be disputing custody of the child, e.g., a parent vs. stepparent,
parent vs. grandparent, and parent vs. relative or family friend.
The disorder’s primary manifestation is the child’s campaign of denigration
against a parent, a campaign that has no justification because the
target parent has always been a good, loving parent. The disorder
results from the combination of a programming (brainwashing) parent’s
indoctrinations and the child’s own contributions to the vilification
of the target parent. When true parental abuse and/or neglect is present,
the child’s animosity may be justified, and so the parental alienation
syndrome explanation for the child’s alienation is not applicable.
The alienating parent’s
primary purpose for indoctrinating the child(ren)’s campaign of denigration
against the target parent is to gain leverage in the court of law.
The programming parent believes that the more animosity the children
profess against the target parent the greater the likelihood the judge
will award primary custody to the alienator. It is important to note
that the child’s alienation is less the result of bona fide animosity
or even hatred of the alienated parent, but more a manifestation of
the fear that if such acrimony is not exhibited, the alienating parent
will reject the child.
PAS as a Form of Emotional Abuse
Indoctrinating a parental
alienation syndrome into a child is a form of emotional abuse because
such indoctrinations result in the attenuation and even destruction
of the child’s bond with a good, loving parent. Child abuse has been
variously defined. The definition of child abuse utilized by the Senate
(U.S.
Senate, SB 577) states:
"Child abuse can
be categorised into four different types: neglect, emotional abuse,
physical abuse and sexual abuse."
With regard to the
subcategory emotional abuse, ten examples are provided. Of these,
the following are applicable to the PAS child:
"conditional parenting,
in which the level of care shown to a child is made contingent
on his or her behaviours or actions"
In the PAS, the affection
of the alienating parent is conditioned on the PAS child’s compliance
with the programmed campaign of denigration and, in many cases, the
ability to provide additional "ammunition" against the target parent.
As mentioned, the PAS child’s love for the programmer has less to
do with affection than fear of rejection if the child does not join
in with the programmer against the alienated parent.
"emotional unavailability
by the child’s parent/carer"
The PAS child knows
that the alienating parent’s affection will be withdrawn if the child
does not participate in the campaign of denigration.
"unresponsiveness,
inconsistent or inappropriate expectations of a child"
PAS children become
confused and highly anxious because they cannot rise to the challenge
of the conflictual situation created by the PAS indoctrinations. It
is unreasonable to ask a child to cooperate in a campaign of denigration,
to do so consistently, and to do so without ambivalence (at least
in the early stages). It produces in the child unnecessary confusion,
tensions, and frustrations.
"premature imposition
of responsibility on a child"
The child is asked
to commit to memory a wide variety of indignities allegedly suffered
at the hands of the alienator. Sometimes the responsibility involves
promulgating a false sex-abuse accusation. This is a common spin-off
of the PAS. All these indoctrinations, and the expectation that the
child will parrot them accurately, place heavy burdens on the PAS
child.
"unrealistic or
inappropriate expectations of a child’s capacity to understand
something or to behave and control himself in a certain way"
Often the child cannot
understand the nature of the accusations, especially the sex-abuse
accusation spin-off.
"under- or over-protection
of a child"
PAS children are often
overprotected. They are led to believe that any contact with the target
parent is dangerous. This can generalize to others. This results in
the child becoming more fearful of venturing forth into the world
beyond the home and more dependent on the programming parent. A vicious
cycle then ensues with increasing dependency on the child’s part and
increasing overprotectivness on the alienating parent’s part.
"failure to show
interest in, or provide age appropriate opportunities for, a child’s
cognitive and emotional development"
The exclusionary maneuvers
deprive the child of the input that the target parent can provide
to the child’s cognitive and emotional development.
As can be seen, PAS
satisfies seven of the ten examples of emotional abuse provided in
this bill.
The Three Levels of Parental Alienation
Syndrome
The eight primary
symptoms of the PAS are:
- The campaign of denigration
- Weak, frivolous, or absurd rationalizations
for the deprecation
- Lack of ambivalence
- the "independent thinker" phenomenon
- Reflexive support of the alienating
parent in the parental conflict
- Absence of guilt over cruelty to
and/or exploitation of the alienated parent
- The presence of borrowed scenarios
- Spread of the animosity to the
extended family and friends of the
alienated parent.
There are also three levels of parental
alienation syndrome: mild, moderate, and severe (Table
1). For the purposes of this article, only a brief summary is
warranted. Elsewhere, I have presented full descriptions of these
three levels (Gardner, 1992, 1998).
The Three Levels of PAS Children
In the mild
level, the alienation is relatively superficial, the children basically
cooperate with visitation, but are intermittently critical and disgruntled
with the victimized parent. In the moderate level, the alienation
is more formidable, the children are more disruptive and disrespectful,
and the campaign of denigration may be almost continual. In the severe
level, visitation may be impossible so hostile are the children, hostile
even to the point of being physically violent toward the allegedly
hated parent. Other forms of acting-out may be present, acting-out
that is designed to inflict ongoing grief upon the parent who is being
visited. In some cases the children’s hostility may reach paranoid
levels, e.g., they exhibit delusions of persecution and/or fears that
they will be murdered. It is crucial that evaluators properly diagnose
the PAS level because each level requires a different psycho-
logical and legal approach (Tables
2 and 3).
The Three Levels of PAS Alienators
Whereas the diagnosis
of PAS is based upon the level of symptoms in the child, the court’s
decision for custodial transfer should be based primarily on the alienator’s
symptom level, and only secondarily on the child’s level of PAS
symptoms. The criteria I have found useful for assessing the alienator’s
level are to be found in Table 2. In the course of the evaluation,
the evaluator should attempt to assess how obsessed the alienating
parent is with attempts to exclude the victim parent from the child’s
life. The evaluator should also assess, to the degree possible, such
areas as the frequency of the programming process, the frequency of
exclusionary maneuvers, and the frequency of the violation of court
orders. An assessment should be made of the successes the alienator
has had in manipulating the legal system to enhance the programming.
This is not usually difficult to do, because the alienator can predictably
rely on court delays, court reluctance, and even court refusal to
penalize the alienator via such measures as posting a bond, fines,
community service, probation, house arrest, incarceration and custodial
transfer that would prevent or interrupt further alienation. Last,
the evaluator should assess the risk of intensification of programming
if the alienator has gained primary custody.
The Judiciary’s Role in Dealing
with PAS Children
When courts and mental
health professionals work together, there is a high likelihood of
success when dealing with PAS families. In contrast, if either attempts
to deal with these families separately their efforts are almost always
doomed to failure. The therapist does not have the power of the court,
and the court does not have the expertise of the mental health professional
nor the opportunity to work in depth on an ongoing basis with PAS
families. The judge in the courthouse is not available to reach out
and deal with the details that are crucial to attend to if one is
to be helpful to PAS families. And attorneys, although more available
to their clients than judges, cannot deal with the whole family, because
they are ethically prohibited from having any direct contact with
their adversary’s client.
Mental health professionals
are basically impotent when it comes to requiring their patients to
do anything. They can analyze, help people gain insight, suggest and
recommend, but they have little if any power over their patients.
It is through the power of the judge—specifically by recommendations
to the judge—that mental health professionals have potential
power, and it is through the threat (I have no hesitation using the
word) of reporting to the court parents and youngsters who are not
cooperating in the treatment program that such power is wielded.
Court-ordered Therapy
Judges are quick to
refer PAS families into treatment. Therapy has been oversold to the
public and is far less efficient and effective than purported by most
mental health professionals. Judges, like many others in our society,
have often bought into this. I suspect that most judges do not really
have the respect for therapy that they profess in the courtroom, but
it can serve as an ostensible solution to the case. By ordering everyone
into therapy, judges can make a quick decision and then move on to
the next case. Most PAS indoctrinators are not candidates for therapy.
To be a proper candidate for meaningful therapy two provisos must
be satisfied: 1) the individual has insight into the fact that he
(she) has psychiatric problems and 2) the individual is motivated
to alleviate these problems. PAS indoctrinators do not generally consider
the programming of their children to be a manifestation of a psychiatric
problem. They do not appreciate that they are perpetrating a form
of emotional abuse, because poisoning a child against a loving parent
is very much a form of emotional abuse—especially because it can result
in the destruction of a strong bond between a child and a loving parent.
Accordingly, they do not satisfy the first proviso. Furthermore, without
insight into the fact that they have a psychiatric problem, they do
not have the motivation to change anything—especially in the realm
of the PAS indoctrinational process. Accordingly, the second proviso
is also not satisfied.
My experience has
been that judges do not appreciate that they cannot really
order someone into meaningful treatment. I believe that judges often
lose sight of the fact that there are certain limits to what they
can accomplish with their orders. A judge can order a PAS indoctrinator
to spend some time in a room with a therapist who is naïve enough
to take on such a patient, but they cannot order the person to be
motivated to change. Furthermore, most PAS indoctrinators do not follow
through with the judge’s order for therapy anyway, from the recognition
that the judge is not going to follow up on it in the immediate future.
Accordingly, they recognize that they can ignore such an order with
impunity. What happens then is that the PAS indoctrinator continues
to program the children, and the PAS becomes more deeply entrenched
in them.
The high incidence
of PAS families returning to court should impress judges that court-ordered
therapy for PAS indoctrinators just will not work. There must be some
judges who appreciate that therapy is at best a very soft science,
and that the evidence is very weak that most forms of psychotherapy
are of any value at all. Yet many continue to "believe in" therapy.
One of the reasons for such blind commitment is clear. It is an easy
transference of responsibility to the sea of "therapists" out there
who are happy to take the patients’ money and go through the motions
of providing them with "treatment." Thus, the judges are happy, the
therapists are happy, and even the alienators are happy because they
know quite well that nothing will happen in the treatment, that time
is on their side, and that the alleged therapy will ensure many more
months and even years of opportunity for further programming. The
only ones who are not happy are the victim parents whose grief and
frustration mount formidably in the course of the "treatment."
Guidelines to the
Court for Dealing with PAS Children
Table 3 provides what
I consider to be the optimum guidelines for the judiciary to follow
in PAS cases. Again, it is important to emphasize that the diagnosis
of PAS is based upon the level of symptoms in the child, whereas the
court’s decision for custodial transfer should be based primarily
on the alienator’s symptom level and only secondarily on the
child’s level of PAS symptoms. It is to be noted that the legal approaches
take up much more space than the therapeutic. The reason for this
is that the legal approaches in Table 3 serve as the foundation for
the therapeutic. Without the court’s imposing proper restraints and
restrictions on the alienating parent, the therapist is helpless to
accomplish anything therapeutic. The reader should note that I recommend
two plans of legal/therapeutic intervention in moderate PAS cases.
In Plan A primary custody can still remain with the alienating parent.
I recommend that the court appoint a therapist, but not just any
therapist. The therapist must be someone who is knowledgeable
about the special techniques necessary for the treatment of PAS children
(Gardner, 1992, 1998, 2001a). Most important are the warnings to the
alienating parent that the court will impose sanctions if there is
any violation of the court’s orders regarding the children’s visitation
with the alienated parent. In Table 3 are six levels (a. to f.) of
recommended judicial action, all of which can be readily implemented
by the court, because an alienating parent who does not cooperate
with a visitation schedule is basically in contempt of court.
Also depicted in Table
3 are the measures that I recommend to courts when the alienator’s
symptoms are at the severe level and the children’s symptoms are in
the moderate or severe level. In such cases, the children may not
be able to visit with the alienated parent, so hostile are they. In
fact, they might even be dangerous to his (her) physical well-being.
Accordingly, a transitional site program must be implemented. As described
in detail elsewhere (Gardner, 1998, 2001a), this program requires
strict restriction of the children’s access to the alienator and gradual
expansion of the children’s access to the alienated parent—first in
the transitional site, and then in the home of the alienated parent.
The Ways in Which the Judiciary
Fails to Deal Properly and Effectively with PAS Families
I have been testifying
in PAS cases since the early 1980s. I have made recommendations along
these lines in many cases. I have been successful in getting courts
to change primary custody in some cases. But not once has a
court gone along with my recommendation to implement any of these
six sanctions. On occasion, a court will threaten to implement
one of these measures for getting alienating parents to comply with
the court-ordered visitation schedule, but not once have I been in
a case when a court has actually done so. Alienating parents know
well that courts are not likely to come down heavily upon them for
violating a court-ordered visitation schedule. Without such consequences,
they continue to program the children. They know well how to "work
the system." They violate court-ordered visitation schedules, and
they know that they can most often do so with impunity. They recognize
that the courts are slow, and that time is on their side. The longer
they have access to the children, the more deeply entrenched will
become their PAS symptoms. Time is one of the PAS indoctrinator’s
most powerful weapons, and they know quite well that the courts
will predictably give them time, and more time, and more time.
This is the sequence
I have repeatedly seen: The PAS indoctrinator successfully alienates
the children. The alienated parent goes to court (the time gap between
the onset of the alienation and the court hearing may be as long as
a year). The trial drags on over a span of a few weeks or even a few
months. The court orders an evaluation (often the evaluator
is someone who may know little, if anything, about the PAS). The evaluation
takes four-to-five months. Five-to-six months later there is another
court hearing, at which point the judge orders therapy for
everyone. (And the therapists may know nothing about PAS either.)
The alienator does not go, nor does the alienator bring the children.
The alienator recognizes that he (she) can violate the court’s order
for treatment with impunity. The alienated parent, in desperation,
decides to bring the case back to court. By this time another six-to-nine
months may have elapsed. Another hearing is scheduled six months to
a year later. By this point, in typical cases, the PAS has become
even more deeply entrenched in the children’s brain circuitry, and
the children, by this time, have been alienated for three years or
more (Gardner, 1997). Back in court, the judge decides that the original
evaluation is too old and orders a new evaluation. Sometimes
this may be an update of the earlier one, and sometimes a new evaluator
is brought in. In either case, the judge may take the position that
any evaluator will do and is not concerned with whether the evaluator
has any knowledge at all of the PAS. This takes another six months
to a year. The new evaluator recommends more therapy. After
the third or fourth round, the children are in their teens, and the
judge (by this time the fourth or fifth one) throws up his (her) hands,
claiming that there is nothing that can be done with teenagers. At
that point, the children have become permanently alienated, and the
judiciary has basically joined forces with the alienating parent in
bringing about this all too common tragic result.
My follow-up study
of 99 children provides compelling evidence for this outcome (Gardner,
2001b, and at http://www.rgardner.com/refs/ar8.html).
In those cases in which the court saw fit to transfer custody from
the alienating to the alienated parent there was 100 percent success
rate regarding alleviation, if not complete evaporation of PAS symptoms.
In contrast, when the court chose to allow PAS children to remain
with the indoctrinating parent, there was a 91 percent rate of permanent
alienation from the targeted parent. At any point in this tragic sequence,
had the court seen fit to impose the aforementioned sanctions program,
it is highly likely that the PAS would have been prevented (in the
early stages) and reversed (in the moderate forms, and even in some
of the severe forms). This tragedy is being played out daily in courts
of law throughout the United States, Canada, and many countries abroad.
I have often said that over 95 percent of PAS indoctrinators would
be cured (and I do not hesitate to use that word in this situation)
by a weekend in jail. I really believe that this would work. However,
as mentioned, I have personally not once seen a case in which a judge
has even threatened to do this.
Alienators know that
it is very easy to "work the system" and even "beat the system." They
know that nothing will happen to them if they lie on the witness stand.
They parrot the oath before testifying because they recognize that
they have to swear to tell the truth in order to be allowed to then
promulgate their strings of lies. They know well that the likelihood
of the judge penalizing them for perjuring themselves on the witness
stand is just about zero. I have been testifying in custody cases
almost 40 years. Not once have I ever seen a judge penalize a parent
for perjuring himself (herself) on a witness stand. I recognize that
the judge may appreciate that the witness is lying and that the lies
affect the decision. However, I have never seen a case in which the
judge has identified the perjury per se and penalized the witness
for it. This failure to take action against perjurers provides support
for PAS indoctrinators, and it is another way in which they make a
mockery of the judicial process.
It is in dealing (or
failing to deal) with PAS indoctrinators that the judiciary has failed
abysmally in its obligation to serve children’s best interests and
to protect them from PAS-indoctrinating abusers. Poisoning a child
to hate a loving and dedicated parent is a form of emotional abuse
per se. It is important to note that courts have been very eager to
impose the same sanctions on parents (usually fathers) who renege
on their financial commitments to their spouses and children. However,
the same sanctions are rarely imposed when courts deal with PAS alienators.
In some cases, courts
have indeed implemented Plan B and transferred custody to the home
of the alienated parent. Unfortunately, in most cases in which such
transfer has taken place, the court has not recognized the importance
of significant reduction of the alienator’s access to the children.
Often, a traditional visitation schedule is ordered for the alienating
parent. Under such circumstances, the children continue to be programmed
and so continue to victimize the target parent. Courts do well to
view PAS alienators like other kinds of abusers who require very restricted
time frames of access, sometimes with supervision. I know that there
are cases in which courts have so restricted PAS indoctrinators, but
they are so uncommon that they are considered newsworthy by the media.
I, myself, have had cases in which the court has transferred custody,
but I have never personally seen one in which the court has also ordered
extremely restricted visitation for the programmer (such as two-to-four
hours a week), and I have never seen a court ordered supervision for
such an abusing parent.
However, I have heard
from colleagues about isolated cases in which courts have ordered
supervised visitation for PAS indoctrinators. I suspect strongly that
any benefits to be derived from such an arrangement have less to do
with the value of the supervisor per se and much more to do with the
reduced access that supervision entailed. Even in the course of these
short visits indoctrinating parents can easily program children. The
healthy mother says, "How is your father?" The vocal intonations communicate
concern. A PAS mother says, "How is your father?" using the same words,
yet the vocal intonations communicate artificiality, no real concern,
and even scorn. No supervisor can possibly stop these inferences and
their effects on the child.
The Special PAS Therapist
With regard to the
court-ordered therapy described in Table 3, I cannot emphasize strongly
enough that the court must order treatment with someone who
is knowledgeable about the special techniques necessary for treating
PAS children (Gardner, 1998, 2001a). However, such treatment will
prove futile if the children still have significant access to the
alienating parent. The analogy to youngsters who have been inveigled
into a cult is applicable here. One cannot successfully treat such
youngsters as long as they are living primarily in the cult compound.
Seeing them in treatment once or twice a week for 45-60 minutes is
not going to work as long as the children spend the rest of the week
with the cult indoctrinators. Treating children under these circumstances
is like throwing pebbles at a tank. It just won’t work, and courts
must appreciate this. Therapy is not a panacea. Therapy is far less
effective than some judges would like to believe. But it has no chance
at all for success if the therapist is not familiar with the PAS and
comfortable with the special techniques necessary for treating such
families.
Therapists not familiar
with the special techniques necessary for the treatment of PAS children
are very likely to empower them. Throughout their training they have
been told that it is extremely important to "listen" to children,
to "respect" them, and to be really sensitive to their needs.
And this is in contrast to their parents who are often viewed as people
who lack these sensitivities. While waving these banners they empower
children and entrench ever more deeply their PAS symptomatology. Elsewhere,
I have described this problem in detail (Gardner, 2002a).
It goes beyond the
purposes of this article to describe in detail the special techniques
necessary for therapists to utilize if they are to successfully treat
PAS families. However, I will comment here on a few of the provisos
that need to be satisfied for such therapists. They must be comfortable
with waiving traditional confidentiality because they must be able
to communicate freely with attorneys and the court regarding what
occurs in the sessions. They must be comfortable with authoritative
and even dictatorial approaches: "If the children are not dropped
off at their father’s house by 5:00 p.m. on Friday, I will, on Monday
morning, notify the court that you have been in violation of the court-ordered
visitation schedule," "If the children are not returned at 7:00 p.m.
this Sunday evening, as ordered by the court, on Monday morning I
will recommend that the court impose sanctions—starting with posting
a bond, and then a fine. If that doesn’t work, I’m going to recommend
that the court order you into a specified number of hours of community
service. This should help you remember to comply with the court-ordered
visitation schedule," "If the children refuse to visit, I will consider
you to be responsible, not the children. It is clear to me that you’re
the one who is pulling strings here, and you are the primary reason
why the children won’t visit." Therapists who are not comfortable
using these authoritarian techniques, which are clearly at variance
with traditional approaches, should not be treating PAS families.
Judges who are not willing to order treatment with such therapists
are also not working in accordance with the children’s best interests.
Guardians ad Litem
A guardian ad litem
who is not familiar with the causes, manifestations, and proper treatment
of children with PAS will not serve their best interests. The guardian
who takes pride in supporting what children profess they want is likely
to perpetuate the psychopathology of children suffering with PAS.
The guardian must recognize that PAS children need to be forced into
doing things that they profess they do not want to do. In order to
do this, the guardian must "switch gears" and unlearn certain principles
learned in law school regarding being a zealous supporter of one’s
client’s requests and demands. Guardians must be ever aware that the
client is a child, not an adult. Furthermore, he (she) must be ever
aware that the client is just not any child, but a PAS child. If these
considerations are taken into account, the guardian will be comfortable
doing just the opposite of what the client requests. Such a guardian
must be comfortable with the children’s criticisms and must be willing
to be used as the excuse for the children saying to the alienating
parent: "I really hate that lawyer. He says I must visit my father
(mother). I really hate him (her). You know, Mommy (Daddy), I love
you, and I don’t want to go there, but that stupid lawyer makes me
go." In this way, the guardian is used as a vehicle for assuaging
the child’s guilt over disloyalty to the alienator implied by any
willingness to visit with the alienated parent.
I cannot emphasize
this point strongly enough. PAS children want to be forced. They want
to be able to say to the alienator, "I really hate going, but the
judge/guardian forces me to. I really hate every minute I’m there."
Once they have been able to say this, they can often visit and enjoy
themselves immensely. However, on return, they will describe to the
alienator all the indignities and tortures they suffered at the hands
of the allegedly despised victim parent.
Most guardians would
agree that they would not support a child’s refusal to go to school,
to the doctor, to eat, to sleep, to bathe, etc. Yet the same guardian
will support zealously the child’s wish not to have any contact at
all with a loving parent—a parent who prior to the separation was
completely devoted to the child.
The guardian who is
truly working for the children’s best interests will be able to say
to the court: "It is not in these children’s best interests for me
to parrot everything they say, to rubber stamp every claim they have,
and to zealously support their professions of refusal to visit their
(mother/father). It is in the best interests of these children that
the court order them to visit. They should also be warned that if
they do not visit, their (father/mother) will be considered responsible,
in contempt of court, and punished by the court." Guardians who are
comfortable with this approach to their PAS clients will indeed be
serving their clients’ best interests.
Blaming the Victim
A common maneuver
utilized by attorneys representing a PAS indoctrinating parent is
to blame the target parent as the cause of the children’s alienation.
For example, an attorney representing an alienating mother may say
to the court: "We don’t deny for one minute that these children are
alienated. There is no question about that. The husband claims that
my client is programming them and they are suffering with this so-called,
this alleged, "parental alienation syndrome" or whatever you call
it. What he does not want to admit, Your Honor, is that he has brought
this upon himself. It is his behavior that has brought about
the children’s alienation, and it has nothing to do with my client."
When true PAS is present, and the victim parent has not been in any
way responsible for the children’s alienation, then this is a cruel
maneuver, although it is typical of the kind of thing lawyer’s do.
Fearing that the court will believe the wife’s lawyer here, only adds
to the misery of the victim parent.
Unfortunately, there
are judges who will "buy into" this specious argument and accept as
valid every frivolous, absurd, and preposterous complaint the children
have to justify their campaign of denigration and ongoing rejection
of the innocent victim parent. I have seen courts recommend that such
fathers take courses in "parenting skills." They take the course and
learn nothing because they already have good parenting skills. But
what does happen is that more time is given to the programmer to entrench
the children’s PAS campaign of denigration. The "he (she)-brought-it-upon-himself
(herself)" flag is sometimes waved by mental health professionals.
They may use the term, justified estrangement to refer to the
children’s alienation from the victim parent. There are situations
in which the court will order supervision of the victim parent in
order to protect the children from his alleged abuses. The supervisors
may then also wave this banner, and will interpret the children’s
animosity as due to something he has done in the meeting, and they
usually find something. For example, a father’s crying will be interpreted
as a "manipulation" of the children. His beseeching the children to
trust their own judgment regarding his alleged depravities will be
labeled "an attempt to discredit and criticize" the alienating parent,
thus violating court orders to refrain from such behavior. All this
only deepens the alienated parent’s sense of frustration and impotent
rage.
The PAS vs. PA Controversy
A parent accused of
inducing a PAS in a child is likely to engage the services of an attorney
who is likely to invoke the argument that there is no such thing as
a PAS. The reasoning goes like this: "If there is no such thing as
the PAS, then there is no programmer, and therefore my client cannot
be accused of brainwashing the children." This is an extremely important
point, and I cannot emphasize it strongly enough. It is a central
element in the controversy over the PAS, a controversy that has been
played out in courtrooms not only in the United States, but in many
other countries as well. And if the allegedly dubious lawyer can demonstrate
that the PAS is not listed in DSM-IV, then the position is considered
"proven." The lawyer may have seen PAS in many cases and even argued
for its existence in them. He (she) may recognize, as well, that there
were too few articles on the PAS in the early 1990s to warrant submission
to the DSM-IV which was published in 1994, but that it certainly will
be a candidate for DSM-V, scheduled to be published in the year 2010.
This lawyer may recognize
that there are now over 143 peer-reviewed articles in the scientific
literature on the PAS (these are listed and frequently updated on
my website at http://www.rgardner.com/refs/pas_peerreviewarticles.html)
and that there are now at least 68 legal citations from courts of
law that have recognized the disorder (these are also listed and frequently
updated on my website at http://www.rgardner.com/refs/pas_legalcites.html).
The lawyer may also know that there are now at least two Frye Test
hearings (see Kilgore vs. Boyd [2001],
and Bates vs. Bates [2002],
in the aforementioned list of legal citations) in which the court
ruled that the PAS has gained enough recognition in the scientific
community to warrant recognition in courts of law. Such
a lawyer may actually believe that such duplicity is serving the client.
The lawyer hopes, however, that the judge will be taken in by this
specious argument and will then conclude that if there is no PAS,
there is no programming, and so the client is thereby exonerated.
Another ploy used
by lawyers representing PAS alienators goes like this: "Of course,
Judge, we recognize that these children are alienated. No one can
deny that. What we deny is that there is such a thing as the PAS.
We do recognize parental alienation, that is, PA." Substituting the
term parental alienation (PA) for PAS muddies the waters, is
a diversionary maneuver, and distracts the court from the causes of
the alienation. PAS demands investigation for an alienator. PA does
not. When the term PA is used, no alienator is identified, the sources
of the children’s alienation are vaguer, and the causes could lie
with the mother, the father, or both. The drawback here is that the
evaluator who only uses PA may not provide the court with proper information
about the cause of the children’s alienation. It lessens the likelihood,
then, that the court will have the proper data with which to make
its decisions Elsewhere, in my follow-up study of 99 PAS children,
I have elaborated on this important issue (Gardner, 2002b).
Conclusions
Indoctrinating parents
are the ones who are primarily responsible for the development of
PAS in their children. The children, in order to ingratiate themselves
with and protect themselves from being rejected by the alienating
parent, contribute to the expansion and intensification of PAS campaigns
of denigration. Lawyers who work within the adversary system—although
they are doing what they were taught to do in law school, that is,
zealously support their clients—are playing an active role in promulgating
and entrenching the PAS. They join the coterie of supporters and enablers
who typically surround PAS indoctrinators. Many such lawyers do this
even when they recognize that their client is a PAS indoctrinator.
Although such lawyers may get an A+ from their law school professors,
they get an F- from this medical school professor. Such attorneys
are contributing to the corruption of youth, the poisoning of young
minds, and the attenuation and even destruction of the important parent-child
bond. Elsewhere, I have described in detail their role in producing
PAS as well as other forms of psychopathology in children whose parents
are litigating for their custody (Gardner, 1985, 1989, 1992, 1996).
Therapists also play
an important role in the etiology and development of the PAS. This
is especially done by their empowerment of children. Many sanctimoniously
profess that they really listen to children (as opposed to
the rest of us who do not). They profess that they really respect
what children want (with the implication that the rest of us do not).
What they are basically doing is contributing to pathological empowerment,
which is a central factor in the development and perpetuation of the
PAS. PAS indoctrinators know well that they can rely upon most therapists
to empower their children in this way so that they are readily duped
into joining the parade of enablers and supporters.
One would hope that
by the time the parade of PAS enablers reaches the courtroom that
the judiciary would recognize what is going on and bring an end to
this abomination. Unfortunately, this rarely proves to be the case.
Rather, the judiciary gets drawn in and contributes immeasurably to
the perpetuation and entrenchment of the PAS, often with the result
that children become permanently alienated from a loving and kind
parent. Compelling evidence for this is to be found in my aforementioned
follow-up study of 99 PAS children. When courts chose to reduce the
children’s access to the alienating parent, especially by a transfer
of custody, there was an alleviation of symptoms in all cases.
In contrast, when the court chose not to restrict such access, there
was an intensification of the PAS, with the result of permanent destruction
of bonding in over 91 percent of cases. This study provides compelling
evidence that judicial decisions play a vital role in what happens
to PAS children.
One of my strongest
criticisms of the judiciary, is that it "lacks heart" and "really
doesn’t care." Although family court judges profess that they
serve the best interests of children, their actions (or more properly,
inactions) do just the opposite. If judges really cared
about children who are PAS victims (and I do not hesitate to use the
term victim to describe these children) they would act with
"deliberate speed" as guaranteed in our Constitution. I have repeatedly
encountered myriad excuses for rescheduling trials—"the judge had
to go to the doctor," "a new judge has not been assigned," "the judge
has recused himself," "the judge has no time for a case of this complexity,"
"the judge is in the hospital and there is no replacement," "the judge
had to go to a funeral," "the judge’s wife is sick," etc., etc. I
have heard it said that, "the most successful lawyers are those who
know best how to slow up the court and delay the court’s ability to
make a decision." Unfortunately, there is much truth to this, and
judges allow it to happen. In short, my experience has been that most
judges "just do not care," their professions to the contrary notwithstanding.
The PAS is primarily
a product of the utilization of the adversary system for adjudicating
child-custody disputes. A parent’s primary reason for indoctrinating
a PAS into a child is to gain leverage in a court of law. In countries
in which people cannot afford to take such disputes to court, there
is little public recognition of PAS. Somehow, some way, they resolve
these disputes without the utilization of the courtroom proceedings.
I believe that if courtrooms were not available for the adjudication
of child-custody disputes, some children would certainly suffer, but
more would be better off. Years of exposure to and embroilment in
courtroom litigation scar most children. To recommend that the courtroom
doors be closed to parents who are disputing over the custody of their
children is not realistic. However, I am convinced that such blockage,
such unavailability, would protect more children than it would harm.
The number of children who would suffer untoward consequences from
not having a court of law available to protect them would be small
compared to the benefits enjoyed by those who would not have that
forum available to them. In short, the system as it exists today is
doing PAS families much more harm than good and is not serving the
best interests of the children. It has been the purpose of this article
to focus on the judiciary’s role in the perpetuation of this tragic
situation.
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U.S. Senate, SB577. http://www.senate.state.mo.us/96info/bills/SB577.htm
©2002 Richard
A. Gardner, M.D.